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1. When you express your feelings or concerns in a relationship, how does the other person typically respond?

• A. They listen, even if they disagree.

• B. They dismiss, belittle, or mock my feelings.

• C. They make me feel like I’m the problem for speaking up.

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2. Have you ever felt afraid to speak your mind because of how the other person might react?

• A. No, I feel safe sharing my thoughts.

• B. Sometimes, especially if I know they’re already upset.

• C. Yes, I often hold back out of fear of their reaction.

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3. Does the other person in the relationship blame you for things that go wrong, even if they’re not your fault?

• A. Rarely or never—they take responsibility for their actions.

• B. Sometimes, especially when they’re stressed.

• C. Often—they make me feel guilty for everything.

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4. How does the other person handle disagreements?

• A. We may argue, but we eventually find a resolution together.

• B. They sometimes hold grudges or shut me out.

• C. They call me names, criticize me, or try to control me during disagreements.

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5. Have you noticed a pattern of being intentionally isolated or made to feel worthless?

• A. No, I feel valued and supported.

• B. Occasionally, they seem to prefer I spend less time with others.

• C. Yes, they isolate me and frequently put me down.

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Scoring

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• Mostly A’s: This likely indicates typical conflict. In healthy relationships, disagreements happen, but both parties feel safe, respected, and valued.

• Mostly B’s: Some behaviors may be concerning. Occasional issues aren’t uncommon, but patterns of dismissiveness or fear warrant attention.

• Mostly C’s: These are signs of emotional abuse. A pattern of fear, blame, isolation, or control is unhealthy and damaging.

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